‘Is it actually just an inconvenience?’: Bride trying to plan stress-free wedding for her guests books it during a long holiday weekend, guests complain

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Dec 9, 2023 8:00 AM EST

Planning a wedding can be very stressful. You know what else can be very stressful? Planning something for a holiday break… So why would you combine the two? Well, this bride thought she would bear the burden of both wedding planning and holiday stress to make it more stress-free for her guests. It turns out, however, that it made it worse. She figured that everyone would love that extra day off they get from work to party or recover from her wedding and not lose any PTO days. What she didn't think of is how expensive traveling is during holidays, or how expensive lodging cost during holiday breaks, and, well, basically how extra expensive everything gets during holidays. Plus, sometimes people plan their holiday breaks out months in advance. And now they have to toss their plans they've had for so long out because of your wedding? 

And yet, there are some people how do prefer holiday break weddings. Turns out it's a new your crowd kind of thing. How do you feel about holiday weddings? For me, I wouldn't care if it were on Labor day or something like that, but for Halloween or Christmas?? That would be too much. But then again, weddings are fun! I'm torn… 

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    Is it inconsiderate to have your wedding on a holiday weekend?
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    My fiancé and I are having our wedding in New Orleans memorial weekend and while some of my family lives there, most of our friends and family are in AR/TN so they will be traveling. We picked that weekend because we
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    thought it would make it easier on people to travel and have a day to rest before going back to work but I've recently seen other posts of people complaining about couples having their wedding on holiday/long weekends when they could
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    be doing other things with their friends/family instead. I had one distant relative on my fiancé's side make a snide joke about "missing the first lake weekend for us" and since then I've been
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    paranoid that this decision was actually just an inconvenience to our guests... which is the opposite of what I was going for.
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    westcoast7654. 3 mo. ago It usually makes flying and hotels super expensive, but it is what it is.
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    plant_person_09345 · 3 mo. ago Yea I think the major thing is the extra costs of flight, hotels, and traffic if they are driving. They'll need to make sure they get hotels early since
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    things book out early (also make sure not to use Airbnb at all in New Orleans). New Orleans is a tourist town so things will be very busy at that time.
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    kelstay207 3 mo. ago My best friend got married Memorial Day weekend and it was a nightmare. Lots of people were upset they had to travel to the wedding and miss out on the weekends normal festivities. They also had a
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    lot of declines. It's really a know your crowd thing. I didn't have to rent a hotel or anything for her wedding but the ones that did were so mad about the price being high because it was a holiday weekend.
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    pinkpharmacist19 · 3 mo. ago I don't like holiday weekend weddings for the sole fact of, I only get so many long weekends and I don't really want to spend them traveling for someone else's wedding.
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    That said, we went to a wedding Labor Day weekend last year and it was fine and we loved having a day to recover after!
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    Bumble_love_story · 3 mo. ago I personally don't love holiday weekend weddings. One of which is because hotels, flights and gas prices increase on holiday weekends. There are also more people traveling. This means my cost to attend is higher. My
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    work is also strict about adding extra days off onto holiday weekends. So if I have a 3 days weekend, I usually can't make it 4 unless I choose or not take the day after thanksgiving off. Depending on how far I'm traveling I may need that 4th day
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    Princess_By_Day 3 mo. ago Yes. I'm sorry, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but yes. I understand it's an invitation, not a summons, but everything is more expensive and takes longer on holiday
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    weekends. My childhood best friend got married on labor day weekend a few years ago, and flying cross- country to attend was a very expensive nightmare.
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    Randombookworm - 3 mo. ago I can't comment so much in US holidays and leave so much as I am in Australia so we automatically get more annual leave making that less of an issue.
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    My issue would be the costs for travel over long weekends and school holidays. My husband and I specifically set our wedding a week out of the holidays so we guests wouldn't get hit by the crazy hotel prices and lack of availability.
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    [deleted] - 3 mo. ago Jewish people have weddings on Sunday (not Saturday) so a holiday weekend is preferable because then the Monday is a holiday. This is rarely talked about in this sub.
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    chocoholicsoxfan · 3 mo. ago Yep. We had a fusion Indian/Jewish wedding. The combo of a three day wedding + the last day needing to be on Sunday meant that it was almost required to do it on a 3 day weekend.
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    We picked 4th of July weekend 2022 and had a very high response rate.
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    toomuchearlgray 3 mo. ago Yeah I knew a couple that had three long weekend weddings over two summers..... (Covid small wedding plus the rescheduled two events planned) - everyone was beyond annoyed at how inconsiderate it is. Lots of
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    families have long standing long weekend plans especially if they have a vacation home, and not only is it usually more expensive to travel during long weekends, it's often much more competitive to get the days surrounding off
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    slammaX17. 3 mo. ago Yeah I very specifically will not go to holiday weekend weddings where I'd have to travel for anymore. Done it a few times and I'm over it- expensive flights, lodging, car rentals -- total pass in my book these days. However it's absolutely a know-your- crowd thing.
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